Lời dẫn: "Do your best and get ... nothing!" là câu bông đùa của tớ khi tớ nói về tác phong làm việc. Bởi khi làm việc, chúng ta chỉ có thể đoán về kết quả của mình; chứ nói cho cùng kết quả thế nào, ai mà biết được nhỉ! Một điều dễ hiểu, xuyên suốt quá trình làm việc, bao chướng duyên có thể xảy ra theo lẽ vô thường. Bài viết dưới đây có thể cho nhiều ý tưởng hay về lẽ sống, phong cách sống mà chúng ta cần học hỏi!
Demanding is not so seductive
Have you ever noticed that those who are the least seductive are those who most need love?
Things are not well done, as men who most need love are those who receive the least.
Why? Because they are in a demanding
mechanism. They are in need, and try to seduce, try to attract with the
goal of filling this need.
In fact, when we need something, we have
a natural tendency to demand, either explicitly or implicitly. But
women are very sensitive and are quick to detect whether a man is
demanding or not. It’s the “qualification principle”. A man who will try
to demand from the beginning will lose his value, because he will be
classified in the “needy” category.
Being needy means being in need from an
emotional point of view. Unfortunately, this sends the image of the
desperate man. A loser.
When a woman sees a needy man, she will
think “this guy has a boring life, no one’s interested in him, he is in
need of sex, he’s begging me to sleep with him!”
We’ll I’m barely exaggerating ;)
But you get the idea. If you are waiting, if you are in need, it’s terribly ineffective to seduce women.
For example, don’t wait for replies to
your text messages, don’t wait for them to call you back the next day.
If she doesn't reply, don’t have the pathetic idea of sending her 5 text
messages an hour so that she replies. That’s a needy attitude. Simply
wait for her to reply, or even better, wait for her to send the text
message first. While waiting for her reply, keep yourself busy and
distracted, and go on living your life full of challenges, going out
etc.
Indeed, going out with a needy person is
not interesting for a girl. First, the needy guy leads a life which is
of little interest, perhaps even boring. Then, a guy who engages
emotionally too quickly with a woman will scare her away.
Give without expecting anything back, you will receive beyond your expectations!
Now that we have seen
why being needy is not attractive, we will try to understand how to
apply the spirit of abundance, a Go-Giver spirit!
The philosophy of go-giving can be summarized as: give, you will receive beyond your expectations.
In order to do so, you should put your
spirit in “pro-active” mode, with the goal of bringing value to those
you are surrounded with, bring them help, nice moments, or moments to
smile about. :)
Go-givers don’t worry about receiving
their change, because for them the pleasure is to give as much as they
can to make the world around them a better place.
The consequences of an open, sharing and
giving attitude will be superior to the energy you will spend. When we
think about giving the best we can, we gain beyond our expectations. A
normal person, with a minimum of social intelligence, will always be
give back the favors people do to him. In fact, giving without expecting
anything creates the principle according to the principle of
reciprocity, an unconscious debt in the spirit of the person who
receives it.
And if one day you stumble upon someone
who has the impoliteness and ingratitude of receiving your help,
friendship or collaboration without ever reciprocating, then you will
have set the value of this relationship: NEXT.
Last words…
What you need to understand is that
giving your best will not make you weaker. It will not take as much
energy as it will give you value. Doing your best in any circumstance
with everyone will make you stronger.
It can also be applied relating to work.
Before asking your boss for a raise, you should show great motivation
and application in your work.
The same goes with seduction. Be a
social man, create links around you, meet friends, compliment people and
talk to about them without considering your ego. This attitude is rare
and impressive, because normally our favorite conversation topic is
often about us. Big mistake. When you’re interested in someone else, she
will take that as a blessing and your social value will go up automatically, all that when you haven’t said a word about yourself!
When you give your best consistently,
you will create an atmosphere of abundance in seduction. You become the
prize without even thinking about it, a person with social dynamics,
unlike the needy who feels like the woman’s the prize, and who thinks
more about receiving than giving.
Be passionate in your work and create links around you. You will then become a social and seducing go-giver!
Kamal
ST và chỉnh sửa: Le Thanh Tan
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